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Unbearable feelings!!  Like parents, you’ve got at least one most likely.

The things we do to avoid them never fix the problem, so if we ever want to really grow up we have to learn how to bear and befriend these feelings.  You are not psychotic because you want to avoid these feelings, the problem is simply that avoiding them is destructive for you and those around you in many cases.

Here is a list of common unbearable feelings

• Disappointment, despair of grief of any kind
• Feeling unfairly treated; the victim of injustice
• Feeling humiliated, exposed, embarrassed, laughed at or ridiculed
• Feeling cruel, hard, unfeeling or unsympathetic
• Feeling controlled, bullied or restrained
• Feeling used, taken for granted, obligated or trapped
• Feeling unheard, distrusted, doubted, misunderstood, disbelieved, misjudged
• Feeling of futility, (it’s all for nothing)
• Feeling bored or depressed
• Feeling ill-equipped, unprepared or caught out
• Feeling uprooted or dislocated
• Feeling unwanted, rejected, excluded, abandoned, shut out or left behind
• Feeling shouted at or abused, especially by one particular sex
• Feeling powerless, helpless, out of control, uncertain or in danger
• Feeling lost or disoriented
• Feeling disobeyed, despised or disrespected
• Feeling around being in debt or unable to pay
• Feeling overloaded or swamped by “must-do’s”
• Feeling lied to, sucked in, cheated, betrayed or deceived
• Being held up, running late or left behind
• Feeling dumb, inadequate, stupid, a loser, incompetent
• Feeling interrogated, nagged or lectured
• Feeling interrupted, prevented from completing a task etc.
• Feeling exhausted or lying awake alone at night
• Feeling to cold or too hot
• Cold, grey, bleak or windy weather
• Being around drunk people, smell of alcohol
• Forgetting or losing something
• Feeling like you have disappointed others or let them down in some way
• Anticipation of fear and dread
• Forgetting or losing something
• Feeling of regret or missing out on something better
• Being a nuisance, a bludger or a burden
• Silence or silent tension
• Feeling full of food or bloated
• Feeling guilty, ashamed or condemned
• Following through
• Deep water, the beach and the sharks

If you seriously want to identify your unbearable feeling then start by printing this list off and mark off any on the list that you feel regularly.

Because we are looking for your unbearable feeling, which you NEVER FEEL, the ones you have marked are definitely not your feeling.

So lok at what are left, do any of them trigger anything in you.  For example if you are anorexic or bulimic your unbearbale feeling may well be feeling full.

What about feeling to hot or too cold. It sounds silly but I know destroyed marriages because one partner would go ballistic over a room or a bed or a conference being at the wrong temperature.  You see if this is unbearable it is unbearable.

People who can’t bear to be late either go everywhere 2 hours early or they avoid appointments to the point of reclusion.

Tomorrow we’ll look at this from one more angle to help you identify if you have an issue here.  But you should be getting an inkling by now if this is maybe something you need to work on!!

Stay Safe ~ Dean Letfus @ www.MassiveAction.tv